July 16, 2005

Happy Birthday Ktreva!

My beautiful, charming and loving wife celebrates her 29th (Version 5) birthday today. In celebration of that I’ve arranged a sitter for Clone and we are going to be hitting the town doing what ever she wants. As I’m writing this what she wants to do is sleep, thus she is upstairs sleeping in. This afternoon when she is awake I’m going to spend some quality time with her.

My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me, without her I’m afraid of the type of person I would have become. Through her love and companionship she destroyed most of my self-destructive behaviors. My friends and I still like to make fun of the way I was before her. I’d get to drinking and I’d start to get violent and combative for absolutely no reason. One of the more infamous times was about 9 years ago when we all went out to a bar one night. I had been out with a couple of my friends hitting other bars first and had drunk two cases of beer. At the bar where we met everyone else, Grau bought me a 36oz Jack and Coke. I had about finished that when this guy comes walking in, he had to be about 5ft 2. Upon seeing him I felt my blood start to boil and I announced, “I’m going to go kick his ass because he is short!” I don’t know why, but that is what was going to happen.

Since Ktreva and I have been together I no longer have those urges. My drinking has considerably dropped off, and I don’t find myself getting more hostile and violent when I drink anymore. To me these changes are a direct relation to our relationship. I now have something to lose that actually means something to me. When I was younger, there was nothing in my life that I couldn’t replace. Now I don’t want to do anything that will screw up that relationship. I just don’t believe I can be a functional member of society with out her. If something where to happen to her I know I would slip into a downward spiral of self-destruction.

Her love is like a drug to me, I always want more. There are times when I wake up in the morning, look at her sleeping next to me, and wonder how I was lucky enough to marry such a wonderful woman. We work together, and there are times when I’m having a rough day, I will catch a glance of her. Just that brief glance can smooth over a lot of the bumps. When times are bad I can sit and talk with her about the problems. Afterwards I always feel better. Sure we have our fights, but I think the longest we’ve been mad at one another has only been a couple of hours.

I don’t know that I deserve her, but I have her and I’m lucky.

Happy Birthday Ktreva, just remember your not old. Grau is old!

Posted by Contagion in Family Life at July 16, 2005 09:02 AM | TrackBack

Happy Birthday Ktreva.

It's beautiful to read how good y'all are together. Love like that is a gift. I'm so glad you found it and even more thrilled that you realize how lucky you are. (both of you!)

Enjoy your day!!

Posted by: Tammi at July 16, 2005 09:21 AM

Happy Birthday Ktreva. And you're not old, *I'm* old!

Your relationship will show your boys what a good relationship is like... a pay it forward type thing. This is goodness. They will reap the benefits of the example you have set before them by seeking the same.

Posted by: Bou at July 16, 2005 09:33 AM

Happy Birfday!

Posted by: littlejoe at July 16, 2005 09:37 AM

*raisin' the roof, doin' a very strange dance*

KtrevA... it's yo birfday!
KtrevA, it's yo birfday!

Yeah, I know... LJ beat me to it, but I wasn't going to be denied! :)

Happy Birthday, Ktreva!

Posted by: That 1 Guy at July 16, 2005 09:47 AM

Happy Birthday K'treva,
I think everyone here would like a report tonight, inquiring minds will want to know if Contagion was a good boy or not.

Enjoy 29, you only have 52 weekends where you will be a "hot 29 year old".....

Posted by: ArmyWifeToddlerMom at July 16, 2005 10:06 AM

My best years were after 33! I hope you have a wonderful birthday!

Posted by: vw bug at July 16, 2005 10:11 AM

A hearty thank you to everyone but especially to my adoring husband Contagion! You make life worth living :)

Posted by: ktreva at July 16, 2005 11:07 AM

"I don’t find myself getting more hostile and violent when I drink anymore"

hostilER... violentER

Happy Birthday, Ktreva :-)

Posted by: Harvey at July 16, 2005 11:13 AM

Happy Birthday Ktreva!

You have to be one special lady to put up with Contagion ;)

Hope you have a very special day!

Posted by: Machelle at July 16, 2005 06:16 PM

Happy Birthday Ktreva!

Hope it was wonderful!

Posted by: Sissy at July 17, 2005 09:38 AM

Happy Belated Birthday Ktreva!! Sorry wasn't on the net yesterday to see this. Anyhow hope you had a great birthday & remember you also get the day after your b-day to recoup, so make sure the hubby does all the work today!!
your friend

Posted by: red at July 17, 2005 10:51 AM

Have a great day, (and night!), Ktreva ;-)

Posted by: Sally at July 17, 2005 02:37 PM

Happy Birthday to my wonderful would be blog momma if she had a blog!

You're definately not old, but you're definately hot :-)

Posted by: Virtue at July 17, 2005 09:06 PM

Happy slightly belated Birthday Ktreva!!

Posted by: Graumagus at July 18, 2005 12:39 AM

Happy birthday Ktreva!!!

Posted by: Oddybobo at July 18, 2005 08:07 AM

I'd say happy birthday but you're out of town and won't see it for several days anyway! :P

Posted by: S at July 18, 2005 09:39 PM