October 09, 2005


It was a cold and rainy day on Saturday October 17, 1998. I remember this day vividly for two reasons. One reason being it was the worst (weather ways) re-enactments I’ve done. We were doing the Trail of History in McHenry County, Friday evening a cold front had come through plummeting the temperature from a high in the 70’s on Friday to the mid forties on Saturday. With this came high winds gusting up to 50 mph and a steady rain. By noon the event organizers closed the event to the public. The wind and the rain were keeping most away, but the path and camp area was a swampy marsh that was a hazard to any public that showed up. They never re-opened the event and in order to get all the re-enactors and their gear, the organizers paid locals for the use of their hay wagons. To pull the wagons they brought in Caterpillar treaded work equipment. They had tried using regular tractors, but they got stuck in the mud. Yes, it was that bad.

That isn’t what makes that day stick out in my mind. Nope, Why I remember this day is because I had planned something special that was supposed to happen that day. I had worked out with a friend of mine that during one of our performances we were going to deviate from our lines and make it look like we started a real fight. The fight was supposed to start over an inappropriate comment made to another re-enactor. After the drawing of steel and a heated sword fight I was supposed to come away victorious and in front of the gathering crowd propose marriage to the “offended” re-enactor. We had worked on and practiced the fight and the wording for hours, only to have it be a waste of time. We never were able to do that show with the event being closed.

Saturday morning upon hearing the weather report I knew that my plan was for naught. They called for cold rain and high winds all day. No swordplay would be done in this weather. So at approximately 11:45 with a crowd of public gathered under our fly trying to keep dry and other re-enactors, I got down on one knee in the cold mud and asked the most beautiful re-enactor I’ve ever seen to be my wife.

I never figured out why she said yes, or what she saw in me, but she did see something that she felt was worth giving a chance. Her kind and compassionate heart held a poor, surly, angry and hateful man in a special place. The love of this woman had changed me from being so angry and hateful into a content and more forgiving man. All I knew was that I was a better person for having her in my life.

6 years ago today, October 9th, 1999, the Beautiful Re-enactor and the Surly Re-enactor were married with a ceremony and reception that is still talked about to this day. The bride made her own Elizabethan wedding gown; the Groom wore a Scottish lord outfit, literally the whole 9 yards. (The wool kilt was 9 yards long before being pleated; this was the origin of that term). The bridesmaids wore Elizabethan lady in waiting gowns. The Groomsmen and ushers all wore kilts. All the re-enactors that attended came dressed in their best costumes. A piper led the bride down the aisle. The church where we were married still talks about this ceremony.

At the reception Matt, the Chieftain of Clan Chattan, brought drums with and our reception turned into a proper Scottish Ceileigh. Along with the modern music, various members of Clan Chattan would play the different drums. They would also allow other guests attending to play along with them.

That was Six years ago today.

Ktreva, I love you. With out you I would have lost my humanity to my own self-destructive habits. Thank you for two wonderful boys and a life filled with happiness and joy. Because of all that you have done for me I am a better person. Again, I love you.

Happy Anniversary

Posted by Contagion in Family Life at October 9, 2005 09:44 AM | TrackBack

"Beautiful Re-enactor and the Surly Re-enactor"

Heh. Makes you sound like a couple of Care-Bears :-)

Happy Anniversary

Posted by: Harvey at October 9, 2005 09:53 AM

lovely, but where are the pictures I requested?

Posted by: ArmyWifeToddlerMom at October 9, 2005 10:42 AM

Happy Anniversary to you both! A shame that your plans were slightly altered as to the proposal - Sounds like it was a grand wedding day, though. You must put pictures up!

Posted by: Barb at October 9, 2005 03:28 PM

Congrats! It is wonderful to read it. I hope you have a wonderful day today celebrating.

Posted by: VW Bug at October 9, 2005 04:03 PM

Happy Anniversary to you both.

If you get a chance to scan in a picture or two or three... I'd LOVE to see them!

Posted by: Bou at October 9, 2005 07:53 PM

Happy Anniversary!!! I just love this post!

Posted by: Tammi at October 10, 2005 06:39 AM

Congrats to you both!

Posted by: That 1 Guy at October 10, 2005 07:13 AM

Happy Anniversary to you both!!!

Posted by: oddybobo at October 10, 2005 07:48 AM

Awwww ... how romantic

And where are the pictures!

Posted by: Machelle at October 10, 2005 08:45 AM

What pictures?!?!?! From the wedding? I'd have to go have them scanned in, I don't own a scanner. I guess I could do a couple. If their other pictures, what ones are you wanting?

Posted by: Contagion at October 10, 2005 08:55 AM

happy anniversary. and many more :)

Posted by: caltechgirl at October 10, 2005 10:04 AM

Happiest of anniversaries to you and your lovely bride. Here's to many, many more!

Posted by: Omnibus Driver at October 10, 2005 11:56 AM

You... surly??? Nah... I don't believe it. *grin*

Happy belated Anniversary!

Posted by: Teresa at October 10, 2005 01:23 PM

I have a scanner hooked up any time you want to do some.

BTW you forgot to mention the best man's toast :)

Posted by: Graumagus at October 16, 2005 09:12 AM