December 05, 2005

When will this go away.

Every year my wife and I have a New Year’s Eve party. It’s been something we’ve enjoyed hosting for years, and we have fun. We get to end the old year and start the new year with friends. For 6 years now, we’ve invited pretty much the same friends every year. This year we are debating on even having the party.

I have “friends” I don’t want to hang around with anymore, so I don’t want to invite them. The problem is that we have mutual friends whom I’d like to invite to my house. I don’t want to put my friends in the middle of a situation that doesn’t involve them. In addition, I don’t want to stir up trouble with the people I no longer want to associate.

Then there are some new friends I’ve met/made that I would like to invite. I know I would enjoy their company more then my old “friends”. We just don’t have the room to have everyone over in our house. So obviously, someone would have to get cut from the list. Of course I’m leaning toward cutting the old “friends”. Again that brings up the problem of putting mutual friends in the middle of a situation that doesn’t directly involve them.

The mutual friend issue is causing the problem. It’s why I haven’t told a couple of them that I no longer want them in my house or my life. So far, I’ve done well in trying to avoid most of the undesirables since all this began. I still have one that contacts me or comes over at least once a month. I think they are beginning to get the hint however.

What to do? Have the party and actually drag mutual friends into the fray or just cancel the party in general. I’ve already had a couple of inquiries regarding it as the invites are usually in the mail by the last week of November.

Posted by Contagion in General assholery at December 5, 2005 06:37 PM | TrackBack

Be a man and just break it off with said "friend", then have the party.

Posted by: Machelle at December 6, 2005 07:28 AM

Screw 'em all and have your own party.

Well, that's just me, but I have been accused of being anti-social...

Posted by: Ogre at December 6, 2005 09:29 AM

yep. Tell them the truth. But tell the mutual friends too, so they don't ask uncomfortable questions.

Send invites to the people you want to be around and not to the others. Methinks they'll get the hint, and even if they don't, screw 'em. You don't want to be around them anyway, right?

Posted by: caltechgirl at December 6, 2005 11:05 AM

I agree with caltechgirl. Invite those you want to have attend, screw the rest!

Posted by: Oddybobo at December 6, 2005 01:57 PM

"It's your party. They can cry if they want to", said The Wife.

*me, rolling my eyes*.

Otherwise, ditto to what caltechgirl said - I couldn't have said it better.

Posted by: Wes at December 6, 2005 04:50 PM

Geez... If I was that bad of a babysitter you could have just told me that you didn't like me anymore!

Best to have said with it and move on. If your mutual friends are friends they will understand and be mature about it, right?

Posted by: virtuem at December 9, 2005 03:46 PM