March 01, 2006

Politness MIA

Does anyone teach manners anymore? When I ask for something I say “please”. After I have received what I’ve asked for I say “thank you”. If someone says, “thank you” to me, I respond with a “your welcome”. Unfortunately I’m coming to the conclusion that I am one of the last individuals in the world that does this.

This has always bugged me, but of late I’ve noticed a rapid increase in the lack of manners and common courtesy in people. On television shows, at the gas station and at work, almost everywhere I turn people don’t use it. I guess this really bothers me because I’m teaching my boys to say “Please” and “Thank you”. Even Clone will politely ask for a drink and say “thank you” when it’s received. Yet many adults just seem to think it’s a waste of their time.

Not that I want to be a politeness police and start correcting people. After a couple of incidents that happened today, I’m ready to stop assisting people that can’t ask me nicely. That includes some of my peers at work. How hard is it to say, “Contagion, could you please rerun that report for me?” Instead I got, “You need to rerun that report for me.” When I gave it to the individual I received the response, “I’ll look at it later when I have time.” At this gas station this morning I hear, “Give me two packs of cigarettes.” The cretin couldn’t add a “please” to the end of the sentence.

Maybe I’m being too nitpicky, maybe I should just realize that polite society is about dead anymore and give up my archaic ways.

Posted by Contagion in Rants and Raves at March 1, 2006 06:06 PM | TrackBack
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Please don't give up your archaic ways. And I promise that I will never bad mouth any man who opens a door for me, or pulls out my chair, or....*grin* Hey, I'm an adult woman and I don't feel that I'm being put-down by a man who is polite (or anyone who uses good manners).

Posted by: MathCog Idiocy at March 1, 2006 06:41 PM

I agree. I please and thank you EVERYONE from the bag boy at the grocery store to my mailman to my boss. EVERYONE gets the please, thank you, you're welcome treatment because it is THE RIGHT THING TO DO.

And I hate my boys saying, "Yeah" to anyone, in particular wait staff. I make them say, "Yes please" or "No thank you" if I catch them. It pisses me off.

And I make them say please and thank you to each other. I'm sure I'll get ragged on when they're older, but I don't care.

Posted by: Bou at March 1, 2006 10:10 PM

Yup, you are a complete and total dinosaur. Welcome to the pack. Keep in mind -- if you hold a door open for a woman at work, that could be considered sexual harassment.

Me? Don't really give a damn.

Heck, I say "Thank You" when a policeman gives me a ticket! And I do not respond to people who request things from me without saying "please." I just ignore them as if they've said nothing. It makes people hate me, but since I hate people, we're all happy.

Posted by: Ogre at March 2, 2006 06:06 AM

Makes me crazy sometimes. I just can't understand how difficult it is to say a simple Please and Thank you.

But - on the flip side, if I'm wwwaaaaayyyyy nice - yeah, that just means you are in serious trouble in my book.

:-)

Posted by: Tammi at March 2, 2006 07:14 AM

I was always polite, but while working at the bank, I picked up the habit of saying "thanks" after nearly every encounter, even if it was someone dropping a load of work in my lap.

I can't stop myself now.

Thanks.

:-)

Posted by: Harvey at March 2, 2006 07:35 AM

I am the same way, I was raised with manners. People are work are always telling me I am too polite because I even knock on the cubical wall before entering.

People now a days have no idea what manners are.

Posted by: Machelle at March 2, 2006 07:39 AM

Indeed, you are correct. And NRO seems to agree with you.

Perhaps you SHOULD be Politenessman, flicking his stainless hankie at impolite evildoers like a ninja star. In your "Kilt o' power", prepared to (politely) expose your "cheeks of doom" to the impolite.

Man, I gotta stop taking this sudafed first thing in the morning.

Posted by: og at March 2, 2006 08:37 AM

I agree too. When I go to a store and the cashier isn't friendly, I go out of my way with pleases and thank yous. I teach my son to say please and thank you too.

Posted by: Oddybobo at March 2, 2006 09:22 AM

I've always tried to say "please" and "thank you" when dealing with folks. Unfortunately, their use seems to be dying, so I do make an impression when I use them.

Hell, I also seem to make an impression when I raise my hand and say, "Bless you, you bastard."

Posted by: That 1 Guy at March 2, 2006 11:06 AM

Thank you for saying this. Please do continue teaching manners to your boys; I will continue to do the same with mine.

Posted by: Jenna at March 3, 2006 11:23 AM

Believe it or not people do notice. Even the boorish morons.

With my son I could barely get 2 words out of him when he was home - he tended toward grunting instead of talking. But I would harangue him mercilessly about politeness and phone etiquette. To say I was surprised when people would tell me how polite he was (as a teen) was a vast understatement. But man it makes you feel good as a parent!

Then he went to Basic. When we took him out for Burger King (his request) for his first day of graduation - I nearly fell over when he said "Yes Ma'am" to the woman waiting on him. *grin* So the Drill Sgt got him to be even more polite than I could.

Posted by: Teresa at March 3, 2006 11:48 PM