Miasmatic Review: Forks in the road.

October 03, 2007

Forks in the road.

I’ve been in a funk for the last couple of days and I couldn’t figure out why. Last weekend was great. I spent four days hanging out with a lot of good people, having a lot of fun and just having a good time overall. There was no reason for me to be in a funk over anything.

Then it dawned on me about ten minutes ago what a big part of my problem is, my job.

I don’t fit in at my company. In my office I am one of two supervising management positions that are male. I’m one of four overall male management. The office itself is 87% female. Not that being one of the few guys in the building is difficult, it’s that I think differently than my female counterparts. Thus in this office my opinion doesn’t matter. Management in my office is a good ol’ girls club and I just don’t belong.

I get the crap assignments and when things go wrong in my department, I catch the blame for it, even if it was another Supervisor and team’s responsibility. I’ve been singled out in meetings, I’ve been harassed and when I try to voice my issues they sweep them under the rug. I’ve even been retaliated against.

The only reason I haven’t left is because of the stability. Yet if certain politicians get their wishes, that stability will be gone. Eh, maybe things will get better.

Posted by Contagion in Stories about me. at October 3, 2007 10:56 AM | TrackBack

Comments

It's really hard to give up that stability when you have kids at home. Especially when one is nearing college age. There are tons of bills and everything else to worry about.

Much as many people make changing jobs seem easy - it's a HUGE undertaking. And (if you're at all like my husband) it divides your mind between the job you're supposed to be doing and the "looking" for something else mindset... something that is VERY difficult to do if you want to do your current job to the best of your ability.

Of course there are 2 options and I know you know what they are. *grin* I'm sure you'll figure out what's best for you and what you can tolerate. Luckily you have all this wonderful bloggy goodness to make the day not so bad. ;-)

Posted by: Teresa at October 3, 2007 12:09 PM

Being unhappy at a job, or in the funk of feeling you don't fit in sucks. I spent almost 8 months working in a place that I dreaded going to every day. When I started with the company, I loved what I did, then they moved me to Cedar Rapids. At that point, life began to suck. I couldn't wait to hit the road Friday afternoon and go HOME. Finally, it took a less than favorable performance review to push me over the edge. I started looking for another job. 3 weeks later, the company and I parted ways, I spent another 3 months looking for work, and finally something found me (thru monster) that is making me happy.

The lessons of my story, it doesn't hurt to look, (monster and careerbuilder are good), sometimes it takes that extra push to get us off the cliff. I am lucky, I was 24 and single when it happened (along with it being planting season on the farm to help me get by). If you feel you need to, take a look around. It may even be possible to use this as an opportunity to move up or manufacture a raise for yourself. Just remember, you have family and friends who support you.

Posted by: Petey at October 3, 2007 12:52 PM

Ever listen to Hank Williams Jr?

"C'mon over to the country...."

Missouri is always lookin for a few good people :)

Posted by: BloodSpite at October 3, 2007 08:19 PM

Preach on brother... (not that I know anything about what happens there)

Posted by: Bruce at October 3, 2007 09:57 PM

I would start documenting everything and get stuff in writing about what they are doing then when they fire you (which it sounds like they are trying to do, they are building a case against you so they can fire you or harrass you into quiting, been there, done that) and then you can sue their ass.

Posted by: Quality Weenie at October 5, 2007 08:19 AM

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